Two Things You Need to Know about Self-Confidence
1. How to Build Self Confidence?
Let me tell you right away, you will not like the answer, but stick with me. The very best way to gain self confidence is to leave behind all the fears and excuses you’ve collected over the years, roll up your sleves and take action. Yes, confidence is gained by taking small steps, consistently day after day. There is no greater power, besides the power of love of course, than to experience success. The feeling of turning your dream into reality. It will change you forever.
Yes, I feel the risk and uncertainty, too. And unfortunatelly, or fortunatelly, not everything will go as we expect. I often refer back to Michael Jordan’s quote:
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and I missed. I’ve failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.“
The more you practice, the better you get and the better you get, the better you will feel about yourself.
We both already know all of that, but now is the time to walk our talk. There is only one point. Get out of your comfort zone. And persist.
2. Where to Find the Courage to Take Action?
First, you have to believe it. Thoughts like, I don’t know how, it will never work, what if they don’t like me, and what if I don’t have what it takes, will not help. I think that they come accross the mind of every person, but those who secceed are able to spot this pattern and interupt it.
In the words of Henry Ford:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you are right.“
Once you decide to believe it and go for it (really, what do you have to lose?), the secret is in preparation. Your business, your career, and even your relationships will always be only as good as you are. If you want to become a better skier, practice and ski with better skiers. If you want better career or more profitable business, focus on personal development and meet with better business owners.
For years I’ve suffered from what I belive is the major undermining force of our self-confidence. Comparing myself to others. Steve Furtic wrote it for me when he said, we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone elses highlight reel. Then it hit me and I changed my focus. Let them do what they do, you have your unique strenghts and there are many people who will appreciate them. Now, when I spot my “I’m not as good as them” pattern, I focus on my natural talents and strengths. I focus on things that are under my control, things that I can do right now at this moment – taking another tiny step toward my goal.
How did the giants accomplished their dreams? Want to get a sneak peak of “their” behind the scenes? Pick up your hero’s autobiography from your favorite bookstore or library and see what and how many challenges they had to overcome. Put Your Heart Into It by Howard Shultz, Steve Jobs by Walter Issacson, Delivering Happines by Tony Hsieh or any book from Richard Branson may be a good start.
Challenge yourself. Don’t stay still.
- What is your dream? What would you like to accomplish?
- What small step, outside of your comfort zone, can you take today or this week?
- How can you make yourself better? More focus, higher level of persistance, better self awareness, or?